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Traditional approaches to healing focus on what is happening inside the four walls of our body; on how to make this internal system work better. But while our bodies and brains matter – a lot – there is also, inevitably, the context in which we live; all the forces “out there, in the real world” that are so influential in our lives. We can never fully heal unless we come to grips with these issues as well.

Radical Decency counseling seeks to do this, expanding the more traditional view of “holistic” healing – mind, body, and spirit – into a five-pronged approach that also encompasses “the practical” and “the radical.”

The Practical
Feeling better and creating more satisfying relationships – these are essential aspects of living well. But so too are a fulfilling career and good money management. And the issues are deeply interwoven. Choices around money and career vitally affect our relationships – and vice versa. A radically decent approach to healing teaches emotional competence and, equally, the real world skills and strategies that allow us to more effectively negotiate the world as it is – “the practical.”

The Radical
But because we live in an endemically indecent world, fitting in better – as important as it is – is not enough. Why? Because these strategies, without something more, require us to play by the rules of the mainstream culture, with all their spirit-draining emotional and practical demands. We need, in addition, to actively mold the environments in which we live, in ways that are more decent and humane –”the radical.”

In counseling, feeling better is always job one. But the most productive work is not just about relieving symptoms. We can only move beyond the painful thoughts and feelings that, too often, dominate our lives when they are replaced by a more hopeful vision.

For a fuller description of this aspect of a radically decent approach to living read::

Reflection 24: Holistic Healing – A Five Pronged Approach
Reflection 5: Radical Decency Guideposts for Healers

See also:
Reflection 11: Recognizing, Naming and Valuing Difference
Reflection 41: Safety and Aliveness
Reflection 59: Happiness
Reflection 44: Intimate vs. Strategic Relationships
Reflection 35: Salaried Workers – Limitations and Possibilities

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